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3-25-2003



The BDSM, fetish, and sex communities in San Francisco are, in general, very together. Some of the most caring, giving and nicest people I have ever met are in these communities.

Now, one of our own needs some help.

That someone is none other than the great Patrick Califia. Patrick has suffered from a chronic pain condition, fibromyalgia, for a long time. Because of nerve damage in his legs, he has some problems with mobility.

The fibromyalgia also makes it hard for him to concentrate and gives him memory problems. Typing is difficult because he has numbness and pain in his hands and forearms. He is currently relocating to San Francisco where he can again be with friends and community. Information on how to help can be found at the bottom of this article.

For those of you who don't know, Patrick (who is transgendered) was one of the founders of the first lesbian S/M support group, Samois, and helped get Coming to Power, the first anthology of writing on this topic, into print. As coordinator of the Society of Janus during the late '70s, he was responsible for that organization's first appearance at San Francisco's gay pride march.

He has served in leadership positions in many leather organizations, such as the Lesbian Sex Mafia and the National Leather Association and spoken at universities, and BDSM events all over the world, such as Skin Two's Rubber Ball in London and the Sydney, Australia leather pride conference. He has taught classes at Denver's Thunder in the Mountain for three years, and will be the keynote speaker at this year's Leather Leadership Conference in Boston.

Patrick is the author of several pioneering works of erotic fiction, including Macho Sluts and No Mercy, and authored Sensuous Magic, a guide to BDSM sex written especially for couples.

Patrick has been an outspoken opponent of censorship of BDSM literature, and his work is frequently seized by Canadian Customs. He was proud to testify on behalf of a gay bookstore in Vancouver, Little Sisters, which successfully challenged that censorship.

He stretched the boundaries of feminism, drawing the ire of the antipornography movement, and was one of the creators of pro-pleasure feminism. Through essays and other writings like those collected in Public Sex he has challenged prejudice against our community and expanded our sense of who we are to include spirituality and activism as well as sexuality.

We thought that a better way for you to get to know Patrick was to ask people in the community their impressions of Patrick. Below is what we received:
"I don't think many people roll over in bed after a delicious fuck and say, 'My god, I have Patrick Califia to thank for this,' but if they knew better, they would. Califia's work has revolutionized the way we talk about sex, the way we enjoy sex, and our political awareness of how sex touches us in a million intimate ways. He ought to be getting a pension from every lover in America, and I hope the people who realize that will come to his aid at this difficult time."

-Susie Bright, editor of Best American Erotica series, and author of many books including How to Write a Dirty Story and Full Exposoure.

"I lived through the so-called 'Lesbian Sex Wars,' that period in the early 1980s when some women were trying to expand and explore sexually, and lots of other women were giving them shit for it. I explored Pat Califia's writings with some secrecy and trepidation, but what I found there helped me past worrying what other people thought about me and my sexual choices, what other dykes (even my girlfriend) might say. Pat then (and Patrick now) so incisively and fearlessly explores sexual possibilities that new doors open for anyone who reads white-hot Califia porn or knife-edge Califia theory. I am quite certain I would not be who I am today, either erotically, or as a writer, without Califia as an inspiration—and there are very few people about whom I can make such a statement. More than anyone else, Califia helped me understand that queer politics and radical sex are for everyone, and that using your own experience as a basis for your work is not only acceptable, it's the very best way to make your work authentic, deep, and a resource for others. As far as I'm concerned, Patrick is one of our most important and crucial cultural treasures, and should be a hero to anyone of any gender or orientation who wants a sex life not shaped and limited by somebody else."

- Carol Queen, sex educator, author of The Leather Daddy and the Femme, Exhibitionism for the Shy and many more.

"Patrick Califia is the most intelligent writer we have. He is fearless and articulate and a meticulous researcher. He cuts through all bullshit to say the things others can't—because they are too polite, too timid, or too invested in the party line. He functions as the conscience of our community of queer people, leaving no scared cow untipped."

- Felice Newman, Cleis Press, author of The Whole Lesbian Sex Book.

"Macho Sluts became my bible in reinventing my sexual identity, and I guess at that age I had no real need to appreciate the irony that this book by a bad-ass San Francisco leather dyke was helping me understand in meaningful terms what it took, for me, to be a straight man. Like a very few other books in my life—Bowles' The Sheltering Sky and Townsend's THE LEATHERMAN'S HANDBOOK being about the only examples -- Macho Sluts showed up in my life at exactly the right time to totally transform me and, in so doing, utterly transcended itself, turning in my mind from a work of literature to what resembles, somewhat suspiciously, a religious icon. I will always have a soft spot for it, as I would even if it wasn't such a damn good collection that I read and enjoy again and again and again.

"Eventually I got to meet and work with Pat, who soon became Patrick, and found him to be not only one of the most reliable, insightful and challenging writers I've ever edited, but also a great pleasure to work with. As an editor at Good Vibrations, I knew that if I had an army of Patrick Califias I could take the world back from the right-wingers with not a shot fired. Copy comes in from Patrick Califia and it sizzles off the page, whether it's a complex analysis of sexual politics or a sleazy piece of down-and-dirty porn. Patrick's writing in all genres is so meticulously thought out and flawlessly constructed that it leaves me both haunted by the fact that I will never be that good a writer and inspired to try my damnedest. I can honestly say that there is no writer whose work I anticipate with greater pleasure. His newest book Speaking Sex To Power is, if anything, even more complex, challenging and inspiring than Public Sex, which I have long considered one of the very best essay collections ever published on any topic. When it comes to sexuality, there's no one doing better work."

-Thomas Roche, marketing manager of Good Vibrations, author of His & Hers, and Dark Matter and editor of the Noirotica Series.
Patrick continues to work as much as possible and would like to avoid applying for social security disability benefits for as long as possible. Patrick has no health insurance but could apply for this through the National Writers Union. He is moving back to San Francisco and needs a safe, quiet place to live with his cat. He could also really benefit from voice recognition software for his Mac so he can keep on writing when his hands are not working right. At some point in the future he may need to get an electric wheelchair. But for now the urgent need is for housing and medical expenses.

Any financial gift you can provide will help and will be very appreciated, so that he can find a secure living space for himself and his cat, as he is moving back to the Bay Area this very month.

You can send a check to:
Patrick Califia
2215R Market Street, No. 261, San Francisco, CA 94114.

Or an easy, quick way to respond is by using Paypal. Patrick's email address for a Paypal response is: patcalifia@aol.com.

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